Remembering The Little Things


💍 God’s Successful Marriage

Remembering the Little Things

Strengthening Marriages One Act at a Time
by TJ Schaaf

When we first fall in love, everything feels new and effortless. We go out of our way to learn about each other — what makes our spouse smile, what calms their fears, what fills their heart with joy. But as time goes on, life gets busy. Work, children, health, and everyday stress begin to take over, and those small acts of love that once came so naturally often fade into memory.

Remembering the Little Things is a call to return to the heart of love — the small, intentional actions that build a strong, lasting marriage. Written from real-life experience and grounded in Scripture, this book reminds couples that love is not just an emotion; it’s an action, a daily choice. When we begin to serve, listen, encourage, and forgive the way God designed us to, our marriages can once again become reflections of His perfect love.

Each chapter of Remembering the Little Things walks through the biblical foundation of marriage — love, trust, unity, communication, and the power of remembering what we once did to win each other’s hearts. With practical examples and honest reflection, readers will rediscover the joy of dating their spouse again, rekindling affection, and strengthening the spiritual bond that first brought them together.

This book isn’t written by a “marriage expert” but by a husband who has lived the journey — the struggles, the lessons, and the grace that God provides along the way. It’s a heartfelt reminder that marriage doesn’t thrive by accident. It flourishes when we choose, day by day, to love like Christ loves — one small act at a time.

> “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.” – Proverbs 18:22



If you would like a copy of Remembering the Little Things, please email me at commonmanpub@gmail.com and I’ll be glad to send one your way. This isn’t about selling books — it’s about sharing hope, encouragement, and God’s truth with anyone who needs it.

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