10 Daily Choices for a Strong Marriage

 


10 Daily Choices for a Strong Marriage

As I teased about in my last post, there are no tricks to having a successful and strong marriage, but, there are actions and choices.  Marriage isn’t just a one-time promise—it’s a daily commitment. Every day, we are faced with choices that either strengthen or weaken the bond we share with our spouse. The Bible is full of wisdom about love, commitment, and how to build a relationship that honors God. Here are 10 daily choices that can help you cultivate a marriage that not only lasts but thrives—rooted in faith and built on love.

1️⃣ Put God First

A marriage is strongest when God is at its center. When you seek Him together through prayer, worship, and Scripture, you lay a foundation that cannot easily be shaken.
📖 “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” – Matthew 6:33

2️⃣ Choose Each Other Daily

Love is more than a feeling; it’s a choice. Every morning, you have the chance to recommit to your spouse—to say, “I choose you again today.”
📖 “I am my beloved’s, and my beloved is mine.” – Song of Solomon 6:3

3️⃣ Communicate Often

Strong marriages are built on open, honest, and loving communication. Share your thoughts, your struggles, and your joys—it keeps you connected.
📖 “Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, so that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man" – Colossians 4:6

4️⃣ Fix What is Broken

Every couple faces challenges, but ignoring issues allows them to grow into bigger problems. Work through conflicts quickly, seek resolution, and heal wounds together.
📖 “If possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.” – Romans 12:18

5️⃣ Forgive Quickly

Forgiveness is essential to a healthy marriage. Bitterness builds walls, but forgiveness tears them down.
📖 “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32

6️⃣ Prepare for the Hard Times & Cherish the Great Times

Life will bring both storms and sunshine. Walk hand in hand through the trials, and don’t forget to celebrate the blessings.
📖 “And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him, and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” – Ecclesiastes 4:12

7️⃣ Be the Example to Your Kids of What a Successful Marriage Is According to God

Your marriage teaches your children what love and faithfulness look like. Live out a Godly example they can follow.
📖 “Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” – Proverbs 22:6

8️⃣ Protect Each Other

Marriage is a covenant to have each other’s back. Defend your spouse’s reputation, heart, and well-being—even when they’re not in the room.
📖 “Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.” – Philippians 2:4

9️⃣ Enjoy Each Other

Marriage isn’t meant to be a business partnership—it’s meant to be a joy. Laugh together, dream together, and create new memories.
📖 “Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun” – Ecclesiastes 9:9

🔟 Above All, Have Fun

Life is serious enough—your marriage shouldn’t always be. Keep fun and playfulness alive, no matter how many years you’ve been together.
📖 “A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones” – Proverbs 17:22

💡 Final Thoughts

Strong marriages don’t happen by accident—they are built through intentional choices, guided by God’s Word, and fueled by love. No matter how many years you’ve been married, these 10 daily choices can bring fresh life to your relationship.

🙏 What daily choice can you start practicing today to make your marriage stronger?

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